8 Rules of Love: The Sunday Times bestsellling guide on how to find lasting love and enjoy healthy relationships, from the author of Think Like A Monk

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A lot of studies and research have gone into why being alone, being confident, and being single is not only better for you, but also better for your future partner. Professor and clinical psychologist Bella DePaulo says, “It’s a broad misconception that single people are to blame for the high levels of loneliness reported internationally.” In fact, studies show that overall, the longer people are single in life, the happier they become. I think he takes some serious liberties with interpretations of Vedic texts. He frames everything into love (and mostly between monogamous partners) which... took one Google to dispel. His four stages of love.... are really stretched interpretations from the Bhagavad Gita. And I feel like he just uses whatever suits him to fit his point because well... none of us were monks! none of us have read the Bhagavad Gita!! so how would we know! nav tipiska pašpalīdzības grāmata - tā nemāca KĀ vajadzētu dzīvot un mīlēt, lai sasniegu tos vai citus! Autors tajā dalās ar savu pieredzi daudzu garumā esot Budistu mūkam, satiekot un intervējot cilvēkus, kā arī ļoti plašām zināšanām psiholoģijā, literatūrā - senajās un mūsdienu. Ļoti daudz noderīgu atsauču, kas rosina pētīt un gribēt izzināt vairāk. The storybook version of love I displayed for Radhi wasn’t the love that would sustain our relationship. Fairy tales, films, songs, and myths don’t tell us how to practice love every day. That requires learning what love means for the two of us as individuals and unlearning what we thought it meant. That’s why I’m sharing my imperfect story. I don’t know everything, and I don’t have everything figured out. Radhi has taught me so much about love, and I continue to learn with her. I’m sharing all this book’s advice with you knowing how much I could have used it myself and will use it in the future. Love is not about staging the perfect proposal or creating a perfect relationship. It’s about learning to navigate the imperfections that are intrinsic to ourselves, our partners, and life itself. I hope this book helps you do just that.

Gerade in Sachen von Liebe und gesunder Beziehung halte ich vor 3000 Jahren als kein gutes autoritätsargument (;However, you need to make sure you feel safe and connected when you’re not having sex. If you’re only feeling safe when you’re having sex, chances are you’re missing out on much more intimacy. 5. There are more types of love than romantic love. Jay Shetty explores themes of compassion, empathy, forgiveness, and self-awareness as they relate to love, all of that again, very accessible, with an easy to follow and engaging writing style. I cannot begin to describe to you how great this is written, rich with practical advice, personal experiences and angedotes, advice that is real, true to the wordly experiences and the modern dating and actually changes your habits and styles of connecting with people. Improves you. And then on top of all that goodness, there are meditations by the end of each lesson which are so powerful, but also very accessible, can be done from anywhere, great for newbies and ease you into a meditation no matter who you are. I've started getting into meditations this year and have been greatly enjoying it and I'll definitely be incorporating all of them described here in my daily life. So very beneficial. Visvienkāršākais (un drošākais) veids, kā davāt mīlestību cilvēkiem, ko sastopam mūsu ceļā, ir smaidīt. [..] I wish I could show you, when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being.

W tym roku, aż do teraz, odrzuciłam 100% propozycji współpracy przy poradnikach i sama z siebie nie kupiłam ani jednego. Zazwyczaj tak bardzo drażni mnie styl, w którym są napisane, że nie jestem w stanie przez nie przebrnąć. Ale są wyjątki…Most of my friends were in relationships. I basically felt single without Isla, and I didn’t want to be lonely, so I decided to join her. Instead of thinking about the pros and cons of moving—What were his job prospects? What was he leaving behind in Philadelphia? Who did he know in Austin? Did he like it there? Would this step benefit his relationship?—Leo was primarily focused on avoiding loneliness. Each of these rules helps you develop a mindset for love, whether you are single, in a relationship, or breaking up. You can practice solitude in a relationship. You can reframe your approach to conflict no matter what your situation. These rules come into play in all life scenarios. Inspirándose en la antigua sabiduría védica y en la ciencia moderna, Shetty nos comparte sus ideas sobre cómo definir el amor, cómo evolucionar en pareja o, incluso, cómo romper una relación y empezar otra. Jay Shetty nos muestra cómo evitar las falsas promesas y las relaciones que no son para nosotros.

It’s much healthier and more important to see your partner in multiple interactions over time before you’ve gone too far in. Studies show that you need around 40 hours to consider someone a casual friend, a hundred hours to consider someone a good friend, and 200 hours to consider someone a great friend. In Grhastha we will examine how to know if you’re in love (Rule 3), how to learn and grow with your partner (Rule 4), and how to set priorities and manage personal time and space within your relationship (Rule 5).

My favorite section that I appreciate so much is on letting go. On the way our emotions get ahold of us, but aren't actually good for us nor true sometimes. As well as how easy it is for us to slip into something, to let our feeling get a hold, without thinking through or working on ourselves first, and realising what we want and what we're looking for. If there was one book I was able to hand out to someone going through a breakup, someone who can't seem to get over their ex while their ex did, someone in a one-sided relationship, someone needing to work on their familial relations, someone working on themselves; loving and getting to know themselves, or just about anyone in this world, it would, time and time again, be this book. Nobody sits us down and teaches us how to love. So we're often thrown into relationships with nothing but romance movies and pop culture to help us muddle through. Until now. DePaulo points to research that when asked to predict their levels of happiness should they stay single, college students thought that over the next five years they’d experience roughly three out of 10 on the happiness scale. Conversely, if they got married, they imagined they’d be just above an eight. In reality the average happiness rating of a single person was just above a seven, and continued climbing as the years went on. Aku ngeh banget gimana usahaku buat nggak mengulangi pola yg sama dg kekurangan orangtuaku (makanya aku baca buku kayak gini..). Tapi rupanya tanpa sadar aku juga punya standar yg nggak aku cantumin dalam ceklisku. Misalnya nih, karena dibesarkan dg ayah yg hobi ke museum & toko buku, aku jadi nyari partner yg juga bakal enjoy kalau ku ajak ke sana. I want to feel that kind of excitement dg orang yg kusayang & yg sayang dgku. You probably came to this book wondering how to find or keep love with a partner. We want love in our lives, and we naturally assume it should take the form of romantic love. But it’s a misconception that the only love in your life is between you and your partner, your family, and your friends. It’s a misconception that life is meant to be a love story between you and one other person. That love is just a stepping-stone. Having a partner isn’t the end goal. It’s practice for something bigger, something life-changing, a form of love that is even more expansive and rewarding than romantic love."

He uses "modern science" really poorly in the book. He cites some slapshot articles barely grazing their actual meaning.

Nobody sits us down and teaches us how to love. So we’re often thrown into the world of relationships with nothing but romance movies and pop culture to help us muddle through. Until now.