She observed (correctly) that I clearly had been holding in a lot of resentment on something that she didn’t even know was an issue. Thus, she had no opportunity to correct the problem because I’d given her no reason to know that, for me, it was a problem. Once your man has accepted your chastity control, and submitted to your spankings, a new opportunity for growth, obedience, and happiness awaits both partners. You can directly influence your man's way of thinking by applying relaxed, hypnotic like situations, combined with immobility and repetitive spanking. You can target specific behavior, or general attitude, by repeating a simple, memorable phrase as you apply the technique. Continue with as little interruption or deviation as possible, as far past his comfort level as possible, and you should observe a direct conditioned response to your training. For best results, reinforce your lesson by multiple sessions. This is a strong method for performance improvement, self improvement, behavior modification, and emotional release. It can also be a powerful tool for stress reduction, both in the mind of your man and on your relationship as a whole. You need not use this method to correct behavior, or to indoctrinate, as it is just as effective in teaching positives as it is negatives. This is not brainwashing, or some holywood version of mind control, so don't expect your man to become mindless. You can expect him to reflect deeply about himself, examine his own goals and motivations, and to begin to change his own mind about his actions or attitudes. Let me know in the comments about the punishments you receive from your mistress or if you’re a mistress, what you use. When we communicate dramatically and emotionally to ourselves, we make the problem even more intractable. Hubby is the recognized Bar-B-Que King of our little group, although our friends kid him by saying his latest batch of ribs was almost perfect. And that with more practice, there’s no telling how succulent they might become. Our friends, out of their natural goodness, would do their part in consuming the practice runs.

Just as with chastity, the best way to get your man to consent to being spanked is to find a man that is already willing to submit to female authority. If instead you get a man that has submissive tendencies, make it clear early in the relationship that spanking is essential to you. Once he is used to regular spankings, there should not be further resistance to the idea. asking for a spanking Bedroom Submission Callipygous Commentary Dressed For Spanking erotic spanking F/M paddling Flashing foolishness Highly Spankable lingerie Love Our Lurkers Day Memories Men in Panties Paddles paddling panties Political Commentary Potpourri Schoolgirl paddlings school paddlings spanked in panties spanking spanking bench Spanking Parties Stories switching Uncategorized White Panties wtf Archives That’s close to what you said. Your actual outburst was ruder. But that aside, were those two claims true? Were you not acting childish sassing me? And were you managing your drinking within the limits I established?” I thought Susan and I had a good marriage. Nothing special, but I loved her and we had some fun times. In retrospect, I suppose most of those good times occurred early in our life together, but still, we’d been married for twelve years when she surprised me Friday night as I came in the door.Duration of spanking is more about the number of strokes and the intensity of the hits than it is about the length of time it takes. The harder you are hitting, the less strokes it will take to reach the desired level of physical and mental impact. The frequency of spanking depends on the reason for the spanking. As a general rule, it is most useful in training your man to choose more frequent spankings over more serious spankings, but with a proper balance, you will be able to enjoy frequent and serious spankings while maintaining safety and well-being. The three types of spankings - maintenance, disciplinary, and pleasure - and the reason behind them is the most important factor in choosing the severity and duration. Some of you may be thinking I shouldn’t have to punish my husband as if he were a child. He’s a grown adult for God’s sake. Others who know better may be thinking, I have no problem with the idea of punishing my husband, but he is bigger and stronger than me and I don’t think he would simply agree to accept punishment from me. The answer to those thoughts are “Yes, you do” and “Yes he will.” Even though the spankings I give him are very real and very painful (even to the point of tears), he has told me on many occasions that he appreciates me holding him accountable in this way. He has told me that he feels no resentment for the spanking as it was earned and that he feels a sense of calm and balance afterwards. Side note…after a good spanking…he is a model citizen around here – very eager to please, in a great mood and very productive! Some grew up in very structured homes or had a strict but caring parent, and they miss something about that structured environment. Others of us grew up with parents who exercised little control and who set or enforced few rules, causing anxiety around having too much responsibility before we could really handle it.

The latter is a whole other animal and is laden with all sorts of patriarchal and religious baggage that I want no part of. At best it reinforces the destructive notion that men should be the heads of their households and that women should be subservient to them. At its worst, it can serve to justify coercion and physical abuse.

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I’m sure that explains it. Once you did rejoin us, you did a nice job of thanking everyone for coming and wishing them goodnight. I was relieved, actually. I did not want to have to spank you, in front of our friends, twice in the same evening. They had not yet fully recovered from the once. I’m not sure that Sam and Bill have recovered still.

First, most of them affirmatively asked for this kind of relationship, so the lifestyle itself plainly is consensual. What are some misconceptions you feel people have about the flr dynamic, or your relationship personally? Now I want you to put your hands on my desk and bend over. Spread those feet apart.” Pants around his ankles he obeyed her. She reached between his legs and handled his balls and pressed his asshole. “You’re mine, to do with as I please. Do you understand that?” “Yes Mistress” he answered hoarsely. While I dreaded what I knew was coming, the almost immediate drop in negative energy I’d been devoting to ruminating about the problem made me rethink some of my skepticism about using adult disciplinary spanking to solve big problems. Big problems are complex problemsSome problems are simply too big to be resolved with a spanking or other form of adult discipline.” When the husband feels the bottom line is rejection or its threat he resents his wife because, as I’ve said, he feels he is the one doing the favor by staying in the relationship. He will think to himself, If she thinks she can do so much better without me, let her try. He may even say this at times. And where do you go from there? Most women in a marriage, especially if there are children, feel even more trapped than their husbands. Because a mother’s commitment to her children is stronger than even the best of fathers and because she knows it is best for the children that the marriage stay together, most wives do not want to make good on their threat of rejection. This increases her despair and makes her feel even more powerless to affect her husband’s behavior. Ever noticed how much of the BDSM vocabulary emphasizes that it’s meant to be something different from day-to-day reality? I must add before I explain that my views on this area are merely my own opinions based on what I have found works for me.