After the 17 minutes had passed, we re-entered the building and went to our classes. Over the next two hours, all three of us were called individually to talk with the dean-of-students. He offered us two choices of punishment, both of which had to be approved by our parents. We would either suffer two ‘swats’ from a paddle or two days of in-school suspension. All three of us chose the paddling, with the support of our parents. I was spanked by both of my parents, always over their knee, with their hand, and on the seat of my pants. My mom always gave spankings in a private place, and dad always spanked in the living room, sometimes with family members present. When I was 18, dad took me and my 3 siblings to the living room, to spank all 4 of us. I was first to be spanked, so I went over dad’s knee and he gave me 6 hard spanks. That was enough, as dad spanked hard and 6 spanks brought me to tears. After my spanking, dad said “next”, and I watched as he spanked my 3 siblings and they all cried. A few months later, 2 days past my 19th birthday, my mom gave me my last spanking, for breaking her rule, “you hitchhike, I spank”! Pretty clear, but my first semester in college I hitched several rides for the first time ever. I went home for Christmas break, and mom knew I had hitchhiked. When she asked me if I had in fact hitchhiked, I told the truth and admitted I had. Mom then told me “you know what happens when a naughty boy hitchhikes, I spank”, no matter your age..Mom sat down, patted her lap and said “over you go, young man.” Without any discussion, I went over my mom’s lap. at age 19, and received 20 hard spanks. After mom spanked me, I never hitched another ride. I learned my lesson with just one spanking! About 40 minutes into the class, Howard snapped a picture to send to his wife, proving he followed through on his promise. She then forwarded the photo in a family group text to show their other children the consequences of bad behavior in school.

Adolescents who have experienced corporal punishment show higher levels of depression and feelings of hopelessness (DuRant et al., 1994). This is such a hard subject to write about without blaming or, conversely, whitewashing the truth. Nice job! Your parents’ love shines through the difficult truths and errors made and your journey towards authenticity is so clearly described. Very encouraging for readers. …Jane One time I went roller-skating with my best friend and I was wearing these really tight pants. I saw this hot guy, and I got nervous and fell on my face. When I got up, my best friend and the really hot guy were laughing at me because the bottom of my pants split open and you could see the pink polka-dot underwear I was wearing. I was so embarrassed that I screamed and ran out of the rink! No more skating for me!" Featured Content The Avoid-Avoid Dance: Overcoming Attachment Fears for Deeper Connection The path to dismantling the avoid-avoid dance isn’t without challenges, yet the reward of a profound, more intimate relationship justifies the effort. If I get another call from her, I'm going to come up there to your school and sit with you in class," Howard warned his son, Bradley. Brad Howard, 53, and his son, Bradly, 17.Thinking about my own sometimes rowdy, and sometimes tender, sex life, I had to smile at the irony of a spanking. We don't hit our kids, so there would be some serious explaining to do if my son ever walking in on Rex disciplining me across his knees. And, at 6'1, I would feel kind of stupid. "Oh, Rex, slap my butt. But first, can you be a doll and get me a pillow for my legs? They're dragging on the hard wood." (Not * Whether I personally lean toward a good spanking or not you'll never know. *

Yes, there was certainly much good in my childhood, No one can say my two parents didn’t try. I love them. We had essentials like shelter, food, clothing. My dad worked hard to provide, sometimes working multiple jobs and traveling for work. Mom was a homemaker and supplemented my dad’s income by babysitting, freelance writing, even sewing for others. Dad and Mom valued education and maintained high expectations for their children. Perhaps "M.C." of Athy, now that he (or she) has had time to calm down, will tell us where the "brutality" in giving a good strapping to a girl of 17 who is disobedient and undisciplined comes in. There is no healthy-minded girl who will be one bit the worst of being stripped and flogged when she deserves it; and many parents would be very glad to find this practice substituted for the eternal nagging that makes life bitter and intolerable in some boarding schools.While 31 states across the U.S. have banned corporal punishment, four years ago The Washington Postreported that 19 states still allow administrators to hit students. I am very glad your newspaper has brought into the realm of discussion the above subject. I am headmistress of a school, in which there are 175 girls from 8 to 19 years, and I find it necessary to spank on the bare seat for disobedience. Last term I caned a girl of 19 years for giving trouble, and I must say it did her good. How is it brutal to punish in that way? If I hit the girls on the head, or continually nagged at them, I should be the victim of criticism. Your correspondent, "Parent," is very reasonable in her remarks. No amount of criticism will restrain me from inflicting capital [sic] punishment in the way I have done. I detest using the lash, but I have no other alternative. In this collection of spanking stories grown women find themselves over the parental lap for a spanking once again: minutes ago Public Corruption Prosecutions Rise Where Nonprofit News Outlets Flourish, Research Finds Study finds prosecutions for corruption rise after a nonprofit news outlet is established within a judicial district. Prosecutions are also more likely in districts where those outlets enjoy greater philanthropic funding. For hours, I used to hide in a basement closet or way up high in my climbing tree, when mom would utter those words of terror … “Just wait ’til your father gets home.”

This book contains the following fictional stories depicting the corporal punishment of schoolgirls: Harsh punishment, including corporal punishment, has been associated significantly with adolescent depression and distress (McLoyd, Jayaratne, Ceballo, & Borquez, 1994) even after controlling for history of physical abuse, gender, age and family socioeconomic status (Turner & Finkelhor, 1996). hour ago 5 Vital Dos and Don’ts When You Are Newly Single What to do and what not to do when you are fresh out of a relationship. I felt compelled to write this blog which is about a very controversial subject, spanking children as a form of discipline. This accounting is to the best of my knowledge, the truth, as retold in parts to me by my older sister and my own childhood memories. I hope it does not portray my Daddy as a child abuser or a monster, he wasn’t and I don’t think of him that way. But the fact remains that at some deeper level, the spankings I endured have definitely impacted me in a negative way. I hope my sharing will convey to other parents to think about and consider the consequences of your actions in your own children’s lives if you should choose to physically or verbally harm them in any way. If I can convince any of you out there to stop spanking and/or verbally abusing your children because of some part of my story, then I will be content. Treat your children well, learn to face and clear your own issues and buried anger, without taking it out on your own kids. Do something healthy and positive, mentally and physically for yourself every day. This was not an easy blog for me to write and share. It took hours and days to make my decision to actually post it. Know that this process moves me further along in my own healing and I thank you for reading it with an open heart and mind.

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My dad and mom, themselves raised in volatile and violent homes — unfortunately perpetuated the cycle, physically and emotionally — disciplining the way they knew. In our house corporal punishment ruled the day. Spankings were routine, in my case far too frequent occurrences, and were delivered harshly and angrily, volcanic outbursts of parental frustrations. Sis and I knew how to “play” our Mom. We would bug her and bombard her with stuff we either wanted to do or wanted to buy and she would avoid making decisions by saying these two phrases to our whining; “We’ll see” or “Maybe”. Those two phrases always guaranteed the same two results every time. “Maybe” meant we were going to get our way, cause Mom was calling the shots and she was the “softie” parent and would grant our requests. “We’ll see” meant that Daddy would be involved and have the final say and that usually meant that whatever Sis and I wanted, no matter what, the answer was an adamant “NO”. So, naturally, my Sis and I would work on Mom and knew we could get our way about things if we asked her first. If we ever got in trouble (which was pretty rare), she would say that she was going to “wait until Daddy got home” and then we would face our possible punishment. I remember sweating bullets when I would hear Daddy’s old Chevy coming up the gravel driveway, knowing that Mom would be presenting our wrong-doings to that short fuse of his. In reality, that rarely occurred because by the time he got home, Mom usually softened about whatever event had happened (or she forgot about it) and our evening went on as usual. Sometimes I was glad that Mom was always a bit forgetful and more times than not, very forgiving. I believe that corporal punishment has no place in schools, even if it wasn’t painful to me. The idea that violence should be used against someone who was protesting violence as a means to discipline them is appalling. I hope that this is changed, in Greenbrier, and across the country. The school’s assistant principal, Brett Meek, hung up the phone when The Daily Beast reached out for comment on the school’s regulations. The school’s superintendent, Scott Spainhour, did not immediately respond to requests for comment. At college, they call Dorothy a ginger runt. Students giggle as they point at her old fashioned clothes.In April 1963, for example, an Atlantic City judge sentenced three teenage boys to a public spanking after they admitted to larceny and receiving stolen goods. My son is very kind hearted, but he's very talkative," Howard explained. "He loves to be the life of the party —loves to get a laugh. He's 'Mr. Personality.'" "My son is very kind hearted, but he's very talkative," Brad Howard, 53, said of his 17-year-old son, Bradley. The rural Arkansas school’s policy does caution administrations that the physical punishment should not be “excessive, or administered with malice” and should be administered in the presence of another school official or licensed staff member of the district. At our annual New Year's Eve party, we had a bunch of people spending the night, so my mom and I had to sleep in my sister's room. Well, I forgot that, and went into my room at around 4 a.m. and kissed someone on the cheek who I thought was my mom and said goodnight. That's when I realized I was in my room and was kissing one of my mom's friends who was a complete stranger to me! Of course she had to tell everyone when she woke up the next day! How embarrassing!" Interestingly, even now as an adult, if someone tells me to “Shut Up” in a stern voice, even if they are kidding around, I get a funny feeling in my gut that’s equivalent to someone slicing my belly wide open with a fileting knife. Those words bring up two feelings immediately; anger and rejection. Guess some stuff stays with us no matter how much therapy we have or how much forgiveness we have granted.